Sexuality

[onlyaworkingtitle]

Now, you might be asking yourself: Why does onlyaworkingtitle keep making these sex/gender/sexuality threads? Is she really active in the LGBTQ community? Does she read a lot of queer literature? IS SHE A WOMEN'S STUDIES MAJOR MASQUERADING AS AN ARMADILLO?

The answer: none of these. I just like starting threads and making polls. And I might be a teensy bit nosy.

...and I have two moms which makes me care about these things more than the average bumpkin, BUT THAT'S NEITHER HERE NOR THERE.

Sexuality. What are you? Why are you that? What would your friends/family do if you came out to them? TELL US YOUR STORIES.

We're armadillos: we may have tough shells, but we don't believe in boundaries.

PS: For the sex vs. gender thread, click here: fyemarmadillo.proboards.com/index.cgi?action=display&board=random&thread=190

[tastyink]

I'm a girl and I find girls and guys attractive. I wouldn't say that I'm bisexual, though. I'm not confused either, I just consider myself straight because I can see myself having a relationship with a male but not with a girl.

I'm rambling. I'll just stop now.

[Fuck Yeah Dion]

I'm a man who finds myself attractive, but since science hasn't mastered cloning yet, I settle for women.

[KatjevanLoon]

I identify as queer as fuck.


I came out 11 years ago, but people only believe me if they know my gender identity.

[Marina]

I'm a girl, I like guys. I find some girls cute, but not enough to get confused or be considered bi.

I was raised in a culture and family in which being different is not a good thing. My family members often say very offensive things and they don't care because they think they're right. Being religious also adds fuel to the fire. Despite this I find myself tolerant of differences and dismissive of hate. It's not up to me to judge anyone nor does anyone else have the right to judge a person on who they are. But it's difficult to remain so, when my own family is always so hateful.

[Silva]

I identify as bisexual. Sometimes I can get confused, but as my mother said: "Let what happens, happen. If you fall in love with a guy, great. If you fall in love with a woman, great." Therefore I don't even really think about it much, because I'm just going to let life take me where it will.

[onlyaworkingtitle]

I'm straight, but I'd go lesbian for Catherine Zeta Jones. I'd just have her talk to me all day. Mmm, love her voice. She should make audiobooks.

My girl-crush aside, my family would be super-accepting if I came out to them, but they'd also be super-surprised. My mom says she's known I was straight since I was an infant and batted my eyelashes whenever a man held me.

[moosethemoose]

I'm a straight male, though I think my mum would love me more if I was gay. I live with two gay women and two straight guys and it's always been my dream that someone will come out to me.

I used to be really sure that homosexuality was an environmental thing, but having discussed it with a lot of people I'm starting to believe in a genetic influence. [Of course its not just one or the other, I mean which is predominant.] I think I probably have quite a lot of 'gay genes' [if such a thing exists] because my mum used to be a lesbian, and two of my dad's uncles were gay. Which means if there's a gay gene, I've probably at least got it recessively. Which is sort of cool.

Sorry if any of that's offensive to anyone in anyway, no offense intended at all.

[devilishlybookish]

After multiple semesters of hearing "sexuality is a fluid, ever-changing thing" and "no one is completely heterosexual or homosexual" I will state that I am female who identifies as female and who has only ever been attracted to men.

I've always been interested in the LGBTQ community as I've always had gay/lesbian/transgender friends. It honestly makes no nevermind to me where your sexual preference lies; as long as you're a nice person and can respect others' preferences too I see no reason not to love you.

[cyanea]

At the most barebones, strict definition, I'm biologically male and attracted to men and women, though not equally. I don't identify as either sex, leaning more towards the feminine, and tend to be more attracted to people who demonstrate qualities ascribed by society to both sexes, or who don't stick to one gender "rule" just because they have a dick or vagina. As a mild, non-risque example, my boyfriend wears colorful nail polish because he likes it.

[Olive]

I'm a bisexual woman... although I usually refrain from using that term because I've discovered that it has a lot of negative association, in both the hetero and lgbtq communities. The fact is, I'm wildly attracted to my own gender. Curves, especially hips, are gorgeous. However, I still enjoy sex with men, in an equal yet completely different way. I'm just... not as attracted to them on sight.

When it comes to relationships, though, it doesn't matter. A relationship is about the person, not how you sleep with them. Most of my "official" relationships have been with men, but I think that's because there are more men with attractive personalities that can reciprocate than there are women (to clarify: not because men tend to have better personalities, but there are simply more "straight" men than there are homosexual/bisexual women).

Am I making any sense?

TMI time: I miss girls. It's been impossible to find girls at my college, which breaks my heart.

[Umbvix]

I identify as pansexual, but generally if I try to tell people, I just tell them that I'm bi. It's easier for them to understand. However, I haven't come out to any of my family. Only my close friends and boyfriend know.

[thestrangewinston]

Bisexual(but closeted) dude here

[Dodger Thirteen]

Jun 9, 2011 8:48:15 GMT -5 Olive said:

I'm a bisexual woman... although I usually refrain from using that term because I've discovered that it has a lot of negative association, in both the hetero and lgbtq communities.

^This.


Okay, this is where I come out of the closet a bit as two of the people I know are on here.... This is difficult to write.

I am bisexual. That being said, I am attracted to beauty, which may instead mean that I am pansexual, but it's just easier to say I'm bi because people understand that better. I don't like discussing my own sexuality unless people are willing to listen to it and hear me out.

I love men. I think they are gorgeous and fascinating in a variety of ways. I'm more than a little boycrazy, but I tend to hide it well. I also have...lesser standards? when it comes to men, because some of the men I see as beautiful would be highly disregarded as such by Society.

That being said, I am also attracted to women, but more as an ideal than any realistic setting. I've yet to meet a woman in real life that I find sexually attractive.


To expand.... [Note: You don't have to continue reading; feel free to stop here.]

I was mocked and belittled growing up for being a lesbian. I wasn't. I just expressed myself more as male than as female because my mother was a tomboy and I was uncomfortable being seen as "female" because that came with a ton of negative connotations, to me at least. (Read: weak, emotional, etc.) Thus, it was decided upon by my peers once I moved to my hometown (the first time) that I was a lesbian and must then be mocked, belittled, tortured, etc. That was fun. Anyway, I feel awkward about my sexuality because of this and I do not want to lose friends based upon my sexual preference. Unfortunately, this is a likelihood, though whomever I lose is likely not worth my time regardless. Still, it's unsettling.

So yes. Hi, I'm Cat, I'm bi and have both high and low standards.

[cyanea]

It's part of the reason that I stopped publicly identifying as bisexual. I was disgusted one time when my friends took me to a gay bar, and had a guy I was initially interested in try to tell me that "I wasn't bi, I was just confused".

I lean more towards men now. I'm in a relationship with a man. I publicly identify as gay. It's just easier. I still find women physically attractive in ways (I like hips, butts, waists, and breasts) and would probably date a girl if I met one that had the right kind of personality, but I generally prefer guys.