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Post by ashshields on Jun 15, 2011 2:07:42 GMT -5
Embonpoint, you are truly a legend. Even though I'm not a fan of labels, I've been curious as to whether there's a term for it. That's the closest thing I've read so far. Although not entirely accurate, as is to be expected, it's still good.
EDIT: Grey-A fits to a degree, too.
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Post by ashleeoh on Jun 15, 2011 10:12:50 GMT -5
onlyaworkingtitle, thanks for the time and the input! I'll definitely look into Quaker schools. I'm not going to get into a psychoanalysis of myself but I don't refer to her as "my partner's daughter" in my head ever. It was more of a, "I'm not the birth mom so I feel pretty insecure, especially in dealing with my partner's mother!" type of thing. (I do refer to my partner's mother as "my partner's mother" in my head, though. She's kind of mean and batty.  ) |
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Post by onlyaworkingtitle on Jun 15, 2011 16:52:23 GMT -5
onlyaworkingtitle, thanks for the time and the input! I'll definitely look into Quaker schools. I'm not going to get into a psychoanalysis of myself but I don't refer to her as "my partner's daughter" in my head ever. It was more of a, "I'm not the birth mom so I feel pretty insecure, especially in dealing with my partner's mother!" type of thing. (I do refer to my partner's mother as "my partner's mother" in my head, though. She's kind of mean and batty. ) Yeah, when I refer to my moms and people ask me "which one?" I specify them as "Biomom" and "Other Mother" (oh Coraline references!), but neither is more or less secure in the original title of "mom" (and people who've met them get their actual names instead of the subheadings). It just minimizes confusion. |
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Post by andy on Jun 16, 2011 2:49:57 GMT -5
Oh, the information on demisexuality is really helpful. Up until I read that post I would say bisexual, but demisexual really applies to me and my girlfriend. Like, I can appreciate people's physical appearance, but it's not like I want to have sex with them. So far I have dated three different girls and all have been close friends. Though I have had crushes on boys whom I have had close bonds with in the past. So, I guess I'm demisexual.  Most people are like that, especially teenagers. Even people who have a lot of one night stands eventually long for emotional involvement. Having strong connections and relationships with others is one our basic emotional needs, there's nothing that unusual about it and I feel like sometimes the asexual community can slip into very nasty condescension and snobbishness by saying that they're the only people who can really fall in love or have a strong emotional connection with their partner, everybody else has relationships only because they're so obsessed with sex. Or maybe that's just because all the asexual folk I've met in real life were like that. |
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Post by gabepeg on Jun 16, 2011 20:58:29 GMT -5
Oh, the information on demisexuality is really helpful. Up until I read that post I would say bisexual, but demisexual really applies to me and my girlfriend. Like, I can appreciate people's physical appearance, but it's not like I want to have sex with them. So far I have dated three different girls and all have been close friends. Though I have had crushes on boys whom I have had close bonds with in the past. So, I guess I'm demisexual. Most people are like that, especially teenagers. Even people who have a lot of one night stands eventually long for emotional involvement. Having strong connections and relationships with others is one our basic emotional needs, there's nothing that unusual about it and I feel like sometimes the asexual community can slip into very nasty condescension and snobbishness by saying that they're the only people who can really fall in love or have a strong emotional connection with their partner, everybody else has relationships only because they're so obsessed with sex. Or maybe that's just because all the asexual folk I've met in real life were like that. Ah yeah, it makes sense that most people would feel this way. Since becoming involved with many different online communities I have come across many asexuals and it's quite interesting. I have gotten some of that snobbish vibe about things every once in a while, though. I had a conversation with a couple of my friends in my first semester about dating and they said that they found it better to date people they didn't already have an emotional attachment to as a friend. I could never do that. I feel like I would always feel uncomfortable until I was close with them and I feel like I wouldn't like it. |
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Post by BasicallyRun on Jun 17, 2011 16:33:42 GMT -5
Asexual panromantic over here, which is... fun to explain to people.
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Post by Eternal Lobster on Jun 18, 2011 13:00:39 GMT -5
Asexual panromantic over here, which is... fun to explain to people. Asexuality is a difficult sexuality to explain to people :-/ I have done my research because I am not 100% sure wtf I am and I don't really want to label anything yet. Asexuals are kinda stuck in the middle because straight people don't understand them and a lot of the LGBT groups refuse to acknowledge them. If I remember, panromantic is being romantically (but not sexually) attracted to any gender or sex. Like a pansexual but without the sex. AmIright? |
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Post by BasicallyRun on Jun 18, 2011 18:01:22 GMT -5
Asexual panromantic over here, which is... fun to explain to people. Asexuality is a difficult sexuality to explain to people  I have done my research because I am not 100% sure wtf I am and I don't really want to label anything yet. Asexuals are kinda stuck in the middle because straight people don't understand them and a lot of the LGBT groups refuse to acknowledge them. If I remember, panromantic is being romantically (but not sexually) attracted to any gender or sex. Like a pansexual but without the sex. AmIright? Heh, I sympathise on the not-being-entirely-sure front. I've written many long, rambly diary entries trying to figure things out, and I'm *still* not completely certain. Which is why I hang round pretty much all LGBTetc related discussions, hoping one day it'll all make sense. Whee, sexuality is such fun... Yeah, I don't mind the people who don't understand - they certainly beat the ones who say I don't exist. It's tricky to explain because I don't understand sexual attraction, so I can't just go 'So you know that thing where [XYZ]? Yeah, I don't have that.' There's just not that good a common frame of reference. And then you try and talk crushes with them and they're all 'But you said you were asexual, OMG you must have been wrong!!!' and you have to explain the not-aromantic stuff all over again. So much fun... Ohh the ~drama I have seen over whether asexuality gets included in the whole LGBTetc thing. Though most people I know are incredibly inclusive and lovely, which is nice. (Though obviously that has to work both ways - I'd hate to think of the asexual community as a whole being snobbish towards sexuals as someone said upthread. It's the difference between 'I am not damaged for how I feel' and 'How I feel makes me automatically superior'. First one, good. Second one... not so much.) But in any case, I think most people will agree non-hetero-romantics fall under the LGBTetc label, right? Absolutely right about panromantic. I'm like Captain Jack, if all he wanted to do was cuddle and talk about books (and Doctor Who, but that's getting weirdly meta). |
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Post by WhatIf on Jun 24, 2011 15:11:38 GMT -5
I chose "other" because I am neither straight nor bisexual.
I usually tell people IRL that I'm straight, because it's an easy answer.
In reality, though, I'm more pansexual or fluid than anything.
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Post by Alis on Jul 11, 2011 9:27:24 GMT -5
I identify as pansexual- which means I'm attracted to people regardless of gender. Which was something weird to come to terms with. I don't notice gender as much as other people do, and I'm not deeply attached to my own. It seems really stupid when I explain it like this, but I don't really identify as "gendered" in my head and I don't identify people I'm attracted to that way either. So, I'm strange. Yes.
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I have done my research because I am not 100% sure wtf I am and I don't really want to label anything yet. Asexuals are kinda stuck in the middle because straight people don't understand them and a lot of the LGBT groups refuse to acknowledge them. 
