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Post by invision on May 30, 2011 19:50:13 GMT -5
I'm not married, but I know a few random things about how I'll do the whole 'marriage' thing (note: I'm 17, so this is subject to change).
For example, I've decided that I want an engagement ring. I'll wear the engagement ring on my left hand, and the wedding ring on my right. I can spend the rest of my time explaining that I'm not gay or polygamous, I just happened to want an engagement ring. xD.
I am going to have SO MUCH FUN shopping for my future fiance's engagement ring. Oh my God yes. I'm not sure I want to get a real diamond.
You can get some really nice Cubic Zirconia pieces, as long as they're on a silver, platinum, or gold ring (I want to save money, because I think it's ridiculous to spend a ton of money on a wedding ring - however, I also want it to be proper, and it's definitely improper to be all "HEY, WANT THIS CUBIC ZIRCONIA RING WHERE THE RING ITSELF IS MADE OUT OF PLASTIC?").
If I could, I'd probably get a jewel-encrusted engagement ring type of thing, because they're PRETTY. But I'm also not flamboyant enough for that -- I'm just the right of flamboyance for an engagement ring without a jewel (or jewel-like) item on it. xD. So, definitely, y'know... Male.
As far as my ideal wedding, I'm not sure. I mean, I was messing around with having an elaborate, expensive wedding (if I could manage it, like, you know, if I hit it rich or something), I want a wedding where I cosplay as Luke, and my fiance cosplays as Leia.
Why? Simple. They're MARRIED. And I love passive-aggressively pissing off fan[boys/girls].
Although, I don't know, I also love the idea of getting married on a roller coaster at Six Flags or Disneyland or something.
Fuck you, the concept of being conventional.
James
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Post by brosephargh on May 30, 2011 19:57:18 GMT -5
I've often given thought to the concept of whether I would want an engagement ring or not. My situation is different than yours, of course, with me being gay, but I'm never sure if I would want my future husband to propose to me, or if I should to him. I think it probably will differ depending on the man I'm dating at the time. Trying to keep this related to the whole English-topic of the forum, though, I think I'd like to have quotes from my favorite authors or pieces in my vows. Something that really embodies how I feel about my future husband and that keeps the literary element alive in our lives.  |
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Post by invision on May 30, 2011 20:39:03 GMT -5
Trying to keep this related to the whole English-topic of the forum, though, I think I'd like to have quotes from my favorite authors or pieces in my vows. Something that really embodies how I feel about my future husband and that keeps the literary element alive in our lives. As far as wedding vows, I think I want a more traditional set of vows. I know I want an inscription on my wedding ring, though. Probably a bible verse. Not sure which specific one, though. James |
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Post by flute88 on May 30, 2011 21:50:03 GMT -5
I'm getting close to marriage - I've been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years and we're planning on getting married in the next year or two - so I think about this stuff a lot.  (Plus, I'm 23, and in my head that means I am getting old and I need to get married ASAP because seriously, my mom had a kid and another on the way when she was my age. She constantly reminds me that I'm not getting any younger, here.  ) I know that I want an amethyst engagement ring, not a diamond one, for a couple reasons. A) It's cheaper, and my boyfriend is a poor college student. B) Amethyst is my birthstone, and purple also happens to be my favorite color. I want the wedding colors to be purple, blue, and orange. Most specifically, a kind of deep eggplant purple, a sort of cobalt-y blue, and orange that slightly leans toward pumpkin. I want the recessional music to be this: www.youtube.com/watch?v=wkH2zETKqws and we'll kind of run down the aisle awesomely, provided I can run in my dress, anyway. First dance song will probably be "I Want To Hold Your Hand" by The Beatles since it's our song. I don't want a strapless dress. I'd like something with little cap sleeves on it. I want a train, too - a long one. And a dress with a bit of poof to it. I'd look silly in a fitted dress; I don't have the shape for it. I want to have a tiny little cake just for decoration, and then serve ice-cream cake for everyone because ice-cream cake is far superior. I also don't really want caterers - my boyfriend's family made all the food for his sister's wedding so we'll probably go that route. About the only thing I HAVEN'T thought about is vows. I've always assumed I'd go pretty traditional with those, especially since I'm getting married in my church and all. |
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Post by cyanea on May 30, 2011 23:12:38 GMT -5
I'm also gay, so I honestly am also undecided about what to do in terms of an engagement ring. I'm not really a jewelry person, and neither is my boyfriend.
It's all moot until my country decides it wants to let us get married anyway.
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Post by mrodigga on May 30, 2011 23:35:17 GMT -5
Count me as another poster of the homosexual persuasion (a bunch of gays on a forum spin-off of a tumblr-blog? Inconceivable! ). I really couldn't care less about the ring. I'd honestly rather just receive a cheap ring, because it shows that my hubby has his priorities straight (heh) when it comes to money; let's save it for the honeymoon or something we'll enjoy more than a ring. In terms of a ceremony, I'm hoping to take a page out of my parents' book: get married in the courthouse (which is conceivable because it's legal where I live), with only the judge and the witnesses present, then throw an awesome celebration afterward for all of our friends and family. That way, we can spend all our money on the celebration, which everyone will enjoy, rather than needing to spend some on the ceremony, which will probably bore quite a few people (myself included ). As for vows, I really haven't given much thought to them, because the only reason I'd consider marriage is because of the legal benefits; if I like someone enough to spend the rest of my life with them, I might as well reap some benefit from it. That motivation really doesn't lend itself to the writing of romantic vows. |
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Post by brosephargh on May 31, 2011 2:24:18 GMT -5
I like the idea of not spending much on the rings. Honestly, as long as its pretty and won't turn my finger green, I'm sure I'll be fine with it. As far as WHERE, I know precisely where I want to get married. Boone Hall Plantation, which is a gorgeous old southern plantation near where I live. It's breathtaking and so full of history. Actually, it was part of where the movie Forrest Gump was filmed. When he's running after the car in whatever scene that is, between the two long rows of trees...? Yeah, that's Boone Hall. But, you know, I do live in the South. So maybe I'll be allowed to get married here by the time I turn 40.  |
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Post by embonpoint on May 31, 2011 8:00:50 GMT -5
I've been planning my wedding for as long as I can remember. I know exactly what dress I want, exactly what shoes, I have two options for venue but it will definitely be in my home county, I know the exact date (well, y'know, the date I'm hoping for. Obviously I have no idea if I will actually be in a position to get married then). It won't be a religious ceremony and will almost certainly take place outside (weather-permitting, I guess); I'd like for us to do our own vows. I know the music I'd like to walk down the aisle to, but I'm undecided on first-dance music.
Although, I've also thought of eloping to Gretna Green.
My engagement ring I want to be sapphire (possible sapphire and diamond). This is because a) my older sister has 'called' emerald, b) I'm not a big fan of other colours and don't want just white diamond and c) my mum has a sapphire and diamond engagement ring.
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Post by Dodger Thirteen on May 31, 2011 11:58:46 GMT -5
I haven't decided if I even want to get married. It's a social and religious construct that means very little to me. If you're committed to someone, awesome! You don't need a piece of paper to prove it, in my eyes. The only real reason I can see getting married is for the legal benefits, and sometimes, they aren't even worth it.
I've been in a relationship with the same guy for nearly five years (five come August 21). I think we're pretty committed to each other, yeah? And if it doesn't work out, there's no messy paperwork to deal with.
I hate paperwork.
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Post by cattink on May 31, 2011 16:07:40 GMT -5
I've never been one to go around planning my wedding years in advance (another 17-year-old here), until recently. The Royal Wedding got me excited and romantic.
I plan on marrying a man that writes, and we'll write our own vows. I also kind of dream of getting proposed to in a poem that uses some of my favorite literary allusions.
I'm not a big fan of diamonds, and I'm not a big jewelry person to begin with. I'm sure I'll like whatever my future fiancée picks out, as long as I know thought was put into picking it.
Yes, I know I'm such a girl.
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Post by Eternal Lobster on Jun 1, 2011 13:13:46 GMT -5
I haven't decided if I even want to get married. It's a social and religious construct that means very little to me. If you're committed to someone, awesome! You don't need a piece of paper to prove it, in my eyes. The only real reason I can see getting married is for the legal benefits, and sometimes, they aren't even worth it. Seconding the idiocy of marriage. I don't even know where to start with my marriage rant, so I won't. It just enrages me so freaking much. It's an archaic concept that is associated with so many bad gender, religious, and sexuality ideas. As for rings, I break all of mine, sooo I can read the signs. Plus, diamonds are ugly :x |
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Post by embonpoint on Jun 1, 2011 13:27:30 GMT -5
I also kind of dream of getting proposed to in a poem that uses some of my favorite literary allusions. Same! But I don't really have any faith that the guy would be able to do it adequately. For one thing, I don't count my 'dream guy' (or whoever) as being a writer; I want to marry a carpenter or a farmer or maybe a builder. For another, I just don't think he'd be able to do it well enough; there might just be one word in there that's wrong, but that one word would ruin it (or so I say now, if it really happened, I would probably be too busy crying to really notice). |
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(Plus, I'm 23, and in my head that means I am getting old and I need to get married ASAP because seriously, my mom had a kid and another on the way when she was my age. She constantly reminds me that I'm not getting any younger, here. 
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