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Post by Silva on Jun 9, 2011 16:44:35 GMT -5
It's part of the reason that I stopped publicly identifying as bisexual. I was disgusted one time when my friends took me to a gay bar, and had a guy I was initially interested in try to tell me that "I wasn't bi, I was just confused". People have told me this before, too. :/ |
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Post by Dodger Thirteen on Jun 9, 2011 16:47:49 GMT -5
It's part of the reason that I stopped publicly identifying as bisexual. I was disgusted one time when my friends took me to a gay bar, and had a guy I was initially interested in try to tell me that "I wasn't bi, I was just confused". People have told me this before, too. :/ When I hear that, I go "Yeah, okay. Please, tell me more about how my own preferences work, since you know me so well!" |
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Post by Umbvix on Jun 9, 2011 17:02:02 GMT -5
It's part of the reason that I stopped publicly identifying as bisexual. I was disgusted one time when my friends took me to a gay bar, and had a guy I was initially interested in try to tell me that "I wasn't bi, I was just confused". Oh my gosh, I hate when people assume bisexuals are just "confused about what they want". It pissed me off to no end when people in my own classes would talk shit about bisexuals and say there's no such thing as bisexuals. Bull. Shit. xD I think that some people might prematurely label themselves bisexual when they're experimenting, but by your mid-teens you're usually pretty confident in what does and doesn't attract you. |
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Post by alyoshka on Jun 9, 2011 17:17:44 GMT -5
Girls are sexy as hell, but I can't imagine being in a relationship with one..
but I am emotionally and physically attracted to some men.. especially the man I am currently in love with <3
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Post by Olive on Jun 9, 2011 17:18:59 GMT -5
It's part of the reason that I stopped publicly identifying as bisexual. I was disgusted one time when my friends took me to a gay bar, and had a guy I was initially interested in try to tell me that "I wasn't bi, I was just confused". Oh my gosh, I hate when people assume bisexuals are just "confused about what they want". It pissed me off to no end when people in my own classes would talk shit about bisexuals and say there's no such thing as bisexuals. Bull. Shit. xD I think that some people might prematurely label themselves bisexual when they're experimenting, but by your mid-teens you're usually pretty confident in what does and doesn't attract you. Seriously. I have had everything in the book thrown at me. Bisexuals don't exist. You're just confused. It's just a phase. You're just greedy. You're just slutty. You're just a lazy lesbian. You're just an attention whore. You've just got low standards. Blah blah blah none of these are even remotely true, stop it.And it's one thing to hear this shit from people who are straight, because then I can assume that they're just narrow minded about sexuality in general. But to hear these things from gay friends?
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Post by Marina on Jun 9, 2011 17:22:20 GMT -5
Just proves that everyone is hypocrite not just straight people. I mean if you can be attracted to the same sex, why can't you be attracted to both? Why is that so much harder to believe? In all actuality, I'd think it'd be easier to believe.
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Post by cyanea on Jun 9, 2011 17:25:02 GMT -5
THAT was the thing that drove me insane. You'd think if there were any group who would appreciate what it's like to be insulted, put down, or judged based on who they're attracted to...it would be gay men and women.
The guy in question? I left him at the bar when my friends and I left.
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Post by Silva on Jun 9, 2011 17:31:13 GMT -5
You'd think if there were any group who would appreciate what it's like to be insulted, put down, or judged based on who they're attracted to...it would be gay men and women. You'd think, but NO... even one my close friends told me bisexuality didn't exist and that it's a cop-out. |
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Post by Katherine on Jun 9, 2011 18:43:15 GMT -5
I'm female, and so far have only been attracted to men. Some of the conversations in both this thread and the sex/gender thread have been insanely interesting to read, I just wanted to mention.
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Post by onlyaworkingtitle on Jun 9, 2011 20:38:24 GMT -5
I was mocked and belittled growing up for being a lesbian. I wasn't. I just expressed myself more as male than as female because my mother was a tomboy and I was uncomfortable being seen as "female" because that came with a ton of negative connotations, to me at least. (Read: weak, emotional, etc.) Thus, it was decided upon by my peers once I moved to my hometown (the first time) that I was a lesbian and must then be mocked, belittled, tortured, etc. That was fun. Anyway, I feel awkward about my sexuality because of this and I do not want to lose friends based upon my sexual preference. Unfortunately, this is a likelihood, though whomever I lose is likely not worth my time regardless. Still, it's unsettling. Oh goodness, this and how I can relate. In third grade, I transferred schools. Everything was find and dandy. I was acclimating. Made a couple of friends. Then, a couple of weeks into the schoolyear, we started studying genealogy and immigration, and every student made a family tree to post on the bulletin board. Suffice to say, mine was the only family tree with two ladies forming the first branches. Suddenly, those people who'd been friendly for the first few weeks weren't so friendly. I went the rest of elementary school and most of middle school with one friend. She happened to also be female, and I happened to be her only friend as well. Hence, we were inseparable. We were also the rumor mill's favorite "lesbians"; therefore, other kids wouldn't get close to us, perpetuating our us-versus-them attitude, which in turn perpetuated their belief that we were not-so-secret lovers. Oh, and don't forget: we were all eight years old. Whether we were lesbians or not, I somewhat doubt we'd be sexually aware yet. So yeah. Homophobic bullying. It was a thing. Not to mention unexpected, at a private school in an extremely liberal neighborhood of Brooklyn. Transferred again in 8th grade to a Quaker school, which was unspeakably awesome and full of joy and love and acceptance. My friend stuck around at the awful school, and says it got better once high school started, but I continue to be skeptical about these claims. |
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Post by flute88 on Jun 9, 2011 20:44:08 GMT -5
I'm a straight woman. Um. Yup. I guess that's not particularly interesting, lol.
(I have a HUGE girlcrush on Jennette McCurdy, though. I'm not sexually attracted to her, I just think she's gorgeous. I kind of want to BE her, actually.)
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Post by Gina on Jun 9, 2011 21:22:36 GMT -5
I'm a straight female, and I don't know if this has anything to do with sexuality, but I only find myself attracted to older males. I would never date someone less than 5 years older than me.  I'm also someone who goes for personality rather than looks. I'm not bisexual, but I feel the same annoyance when people say that people who are bisexual are "confused about what they want". I have friends who are bisexual and I just don't understand why it's so difficult to "get" that it's possible to be attracted to two sexes. |
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Post by afontofnothing on Jun 9, 2011 22:58:16 GMT -5
I'm bisexual, but I'm in the closet (well, I guess I'm not anymore). I don't know why I haven't come out yet. I've got a group of friends who would be fine with it, and so would my family.
It's easier said than done.
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Post by Silva on Jun 9, 2011 23:46:58 GMT -5
I'm bisexual, but I'm in the closet (well, I guess I'm not anymore). I don't know why I haven't come out yet. I've got a group of friends who would be fine with it, and so would my family. It's easier said than done. I'm semi-in the closet. My mother's relatives would scoff at me, and merely say I was saying that because my mother is a lesbian and came out, oh, four years ago. I think that's a long enough time span for me to say that I'm bi (I figured this out recently) without it being 'just because my mom came out'. That being said, my mother and close friends know, and now all of you~ My dad knows, and I don't know if he's told people or not. I don't see why he would. Also, I told someone I thought would understand, and got told it was a cop-out. |
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Post by KatjevanLoon on Jun 9, 2011 23:55:11 GMT -5
I came out 11 years ago, but people only believe me if they know my gender identity. I should probably clarify this: I came out 11 years ago as bisexual, but later on modified it to "queer as fuck" because I couldn't really restrict my attraction to two separate sexes (and I was starting to question gender binary anyway). And I hate the term pansexual [in reference to myself]. It sounds like I'm attracted to kitchen implements. So, yeah, I've got all those arguments too, about how I'm just confused. My dad flat out refuses to accept that I'm not straight. =\ |
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I'm also someone who goes for personality rather than looks. 
